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Epicurus

For many years, pop psychologists and personal development gurus have espoused the importance of finding one’s why as the first course of action in achieving anything worthwhile.

Author Simon Sinek most recently brought this to the forefront with his books Find Your Why and the earlier Start with Why, but Sinek is by no means the first to shine the spotlight on this topic. Leadership consultant and author JB SymonsGetting to Why is another example of this idea at play, which is basically a riff on the age-old search for purpose – and the material abounds from Epicurus to Maslow  to the present day.

If you are low on funds and have kids to feed, then your why is blatantly obvious. You need to get your hands on the means to feed them. This usually means money but in the short term, most folks have relatives or friends who can step in to fill those bellies. That being said, this is an issue that needs immediate attention, and is not really what we’re talking about here.

Finding your why might include things like giving hope to others through a personal story, moving people with your music, bringing a useful product or service to the marketplace, leaving a legacy or making enough money to ensure your children have a better upbringing than you did. Your why might center on putting yourself in the position to be able to feed the bellies mentioned above and then some.

Your why might be to prove others wrong or to amass a fortune so that you could thumb your nose at the people who told you that you would never amount to anything.

But wait. Does achievement really need to hinge on a meaningful why for it to happen?

Do you have something you’ve been putting off doing until “someday?” That’s a dangerous game.

You might die tomorrow. You might die tonight.

But one thing is for sure. You’re going to die.

Get in touch with the version of yourself that came up with that idea. That person was excited – if only for a moment. You set aside your idea for “someday,” but although the years (or decades for some of us) have continued their inexorable march, you still carry that idea with you. Perhaps you have seen similar ideas come to fruition in the meantime. Instead of lamenting that it’s too late and that somebody beat you to it, consider for a moment that you were on the right track – and there’s always room for your contribution.

If we are going to die anyway, why not go after that one idea from your youth – that one flash of inspiration you experienced in the shower last week or that lyric that jolted you awake with its brilliance last night.

If you are breathing, there is still time.

Do the thing. You will be glad you did.

Why not…

Photo: City of Myrtle Beach

Last week, I had the opportunity to play a very interesting and serendipitous show with my brother at a really cool venue in the heart of Myrtle Beach.

The Historic Myrtle Beach Train Depot is a landmark brick structure that was built in 1937 and for 30 years welcomed both passenger and freight trains to the area. It later belonged to a beverage distributor and almost fell victim to the wrecking ball until the community went ballistic.  After painstaking restoration, it opened in its current beautiful state in 2004 and is now rented out for events.

 I officiated a wedding there not long ago, and was also on hand for the inaugural CreateSouth conference there more than a decade ago. I also played a fundraiser there with Sick Stooges, a cover band that I co-founded and played in for ten years.

Sick Stooges at the Train Depot (the longhair on the right is yours truly)

This wonderful setting is also home to the South by Southeast Music Feast – a regular gathering hosted by a nonprofit called South by Southeast (SXSE), which provides assistance and support to local music education programs. The organization is all about helping young people offset the costs associated with this – and as their website says – “to help young people in their pursuit of all the joys of music.”

South by Southeast was founded by Jeff Roberts, a guy I was happy to meet when I moved here. Sadly, he passed away in 2009. Ask anybody who came into contact with him, Jeff was the fountainhead from which a torrent of musical knowledge sprung. He owned a couple of longstanding independent record shops here, and one of his isms was, “You gotta hear this…” He was irreplaceable.

Roberts’ son, Hunter, was at the event. That was a full-circle situation if ever there was one.

Jeff invited us to play an opening slot at the music feast on the bill with Dangermuffin years ago – and we did 30 minutes of Chris’ original music – much like we did this time.

In October, The Yale Brothers did a fundraiser called Wicked Wishes at the Wicked Tuna in Murrells Inlet to benefit Make-A-Wish South Carolina. We were glad to see that our old friend Seth Funderburk was running sound for the event. Seth is an entrepreneur in his own right, with several businesses in operation as I type this. He’s also an organizer for the Waccamaw Getaway Festival and the IrieSun Reggae Festival. He’s also been involved with SXSE for as long as I have known him.

Fun fact: Funderburk and Roberts went way back – and Funderburk worked in his youth for Roberts at his first shop, Sounds Familiar Records.

When we finished our set at Wicked Wished, Seth invited us to play the SXSE show. We were excited about the prospect.

The idea of playing only originals was appealing, and the serendipitous part of this was the fact that we would be opening for a duo called Admiral Radio, made up of Becca Smith and Coty Hoover – both of whom attended College of Charleston and both of whom know my daughter, Taylor, through our friend Clyde Moser, who studied there as well. Admiral Radio recently played a series of shows in New York – and Taylor and Clyde saw them there. This in itself is cool, but the fact that we randomly got invited to play with them here is proof that this is indeed a very small world.

The Yale Brothers Photo: Tami Sluss Ashley

The vibe at a SXSE event is refreshing; the people come to actually listen to the music offered – and this coupled with a preshow potluck and New South Brewing‘s Chris Barnes set up at the back of the room with beer and wine makes for a welcoming experience for the musicians as well as the audience.

WAVE 104.1 radio personality and program director Scott Mann, our brother from another mother, introduced us in a way that solidified that point – and off we went. It was gratifying to feel the love from the folks in attendance, who responded enthusiastically to each song.

Admiral Radio delivered a great first set with originals and thoughtful covers. Their harmonies were ethereal and stirring. These two are seasoned pros, and it was an honor to share the bill with them. I am sure their second set was great, too.

It’s always nice to play a show in the presence of like-minded people, to reconnect with friends and to make new ones.

For more about SXSE, click HERE.

The Yale Brothers with Admiral Radio / Photo: Seth Funderburk
Roger Yale with Scott Mann and Seth Funderburk / Photo: Chris Yale